Or, you can check out a group specifically for older lesbians. Get Your Friends Involved . Letting others know you’re open to meeting new people is a great way to get introduced. If you are shy, don’t have your friends “set you up,” rather, have them invite you over for dinner, to a movie or some other social activity you might enjoy As a longtime fan of lesbian films, more and more I find myself craving great stories about the beauty, sensuality and experience of the older lesbian. But are they easy to find? Despite the strides we’ve made in society, most movies are still geared to a younger heterosexual audience.